ℂhęёɾƒµℓ ÄℓωãŸ§: May 2010

Tuesday, May 25, 2010

Really 50 degree Celsius ?

Someone said on Thursday temperature will increase up to 50 degree Celsius in here. If it's true, I could not imagine how supper hot it is. Can I survive @ ceremony's house if they ask me to go there after lunch nos?

According to Yahoo weather, current condition is 38 degree Celsius but feel like 40 degree Celsius.

Wednesday, May 19, 2010

You Just Don't Understand

You Just Don't Understand

Sound interesting? It is a tittle of the book that I am currently reading. It was written by Deborah Tannen, Ph. D. The author tried to compare the Conversation world between Women and Men and the ways in which talk gets us into trouble and misunderstanding, and so on... (cos I've just finished a few pages...hehe...)

Below are a few paragraphs from her book:

"For Men world, as an individual in a hierarchical social order in which he was either one-up or one-down. In this world, conversations are negotiations in which people try to achieve and maintain the upper hand if they can, and protect themselves from others' attempts to put them down and push them around. Life, then, is a contest, a struggle to preserve independence and avoid failure. "

For Women world, as an individual in a network of connections. In this world, conversation are negotiations for closeness in which people try to seek and give confirmation and support, and to reach consensus. They try to protect themselves from others' attempts to push them away. Life, then, is a community, a struggle to preserve intimacy and avoid isolation. Though there are hierarchies in this world too, they are hierarchies more of friendship then of power and accomplishment.

Women are also concerned with achieving status and avoiding failure, but these are not the goals they are focused on all the time, and they tend to pursue them in the guise of connection. And men are also concerned with achieving involvement and avoiding isolation, but they are not focused on these goals, and they tend to pursue them in the guise of opposition.

Intimacy is key in a world of connection where individuals negotiate complex networks of friendship, minimize differences, try to reach consensus, and avoid the appearance of superiority, which would highlight differences. In a world of status, independence is key, because a primary means of establishing status is to tell other what to do, and taking orders is a marker of low status. Though all humans need both intimacy and independence, women tend to focus on the first and men on the second. It is as if their life-blood ran in different directions."

About the author: Deborah Tannen is professor of linguistics at Georgetown University and is author of the widely acclaimed That's Not What I Meant! An internationally recognized scholar who has lectured all over the world, she has received grants from the National Endowment for the Humanities, the Rockefeller Foundation, and the National Science Foundation.....